And here I was thinking my dates are awful... I guess it's all about comparison.
To be honest, I'm quite understanding about sex fetishes, BUT there is a difference between thinking about something and actually DOING it. I mean, some people have fantasies about being dominated, right? But as long as the other party gives consent, it's between the two consenting adults.
If my long-time partner admitted having bestiality fantasies, but also said he knows it's unacceptable to abuse animals, and he's been adressing this with someone (like a therapist or sex therapist), I'd be shocked, but I would have probably accepted this... But when a guy says that on the first few days, while showing no remorse... HELL NAH.
His father seemed to perpetuate the rape culcute of "he couldn't control himself, it's not his fault". Fella, if you have control issues - go see a doctor. People with those views are the ones who end up in prisons for rape or murder. Jesus.
If I had a child, I would have ran away from such boyfriend and installed security monitoring system at my house. Shannon, it's great you ran away from him!