First of all, I’m mesmerised by what your mom and her friends did to the child abuser. It’s amazing! Secondly, I wouldn’t be able to be friends with a person like that. I’m sure “Carol” has a lot of fine qualities, but I don’t wish to be around with someone who steals her friends’ husbands. Thirdly, I think that if people are in a loving and committed partnership, no matter who you introduce to them, they wouldn’t cheat. You’re either a cheater or you’re not; and forbidding your spouse to let “Carol” in unless you’re home doesn’t sounds great… But good for you, I suppose!