Holly, we may not know each other and we live in different countries, but GIRL, please take care of yourself! You seem like a kind, smart, reasonable, successful and wholesome person. You DESERVE someone who treats you well. You deserve a person who is EQUALLY kind and you wouldn’t say those horrible things to anyone. Sure, he was mad. But people don’t just tell their “emotional mistress” - not sure if that’s the right term - that they hate their wife and wouldn’t be with her.

So you forgot the keys in the door. So what? Sure, it’s an inconvenience. But it’s not a reason enough to text another woman about his wife being a fuck-up. If someone said such things about me, I would have probably packed my bags and filed for a divorce. And it’s not the first time he did that to you!!

Holly, please make sure you’re safe and emotionally healthy. If you wish to keep this relationship alive, go to counselling, etc - that’s totally understandable. But as your reader, I’m concerned about you.