I can assure you that I'm not looking for the best candidate. My dating history confirms that. I'm looking for a really good candidate, but that applies to character and morals, not any shallow criteria.

I have matched with a lot of people when I was on the apps. Matching with someone doesn't mean anything yet. But I'm someone who isn't interested in dating multiple people at the same time. I didn't even like talking to more than one person at a time on the apps when I used them, and I surely haven't scheduled a date if I already had another one lined up.

You see, here's the paradox. Everyone talks about how they want to find a good partner, be loved, be cared for, and having someone who would see them for who they are and understand them. That requires being with a genuinely good person. I don't believe that people who date multiple people and choose the best one are examples of a good character. That woman who told you she's dating someone else, did you end up being with her? And regardless of that, did it feel good being told you're not special, there's someone else who you have to compete with and may lose to, and overall that you're replaceable?