I consider myself to be a modern woman and I support feminism. I want a man who’s my equal, as in I want someone who provides for me WHILE I provide for him too. Im okay dating someone who makes less money than me, but I wasn’t seeking a guy who makes more so that I get access to his money. When you have a family, sometimes one of you makes more and the other one makes less, and the roles might get reversed when one of you gets sick or laid off. I also would like to share the childcare responsibilities with my man, and I want us to work as a team. As for his kids from other relationships, I’d love to be a step mom and take care of them; naturally, I expect the same from him as well (within reason, as in it wouldn’t be his responsibility to pay for their education, for example). I’m not much of a lady, I’m more of a warrior (lol), and I don’t give into fairy tales about a prince on a white horse. I simply have always wanted someone I’d love and care about, and he’d do the same for me. It cannot be one-sided. I’m sorry you encountered women who are selfish and wish to be taken care of while not doing much in return. I’ve met people like that too, both men and women. They are simply selfish individuals who want to feed off others’ resources, both financial and emotional. It’s not even about feminism and being a modern woman/man; it’s about people who use others.