I don’t judge people for being sugar babies / having a sugar baby, so I can’t say anything negative about this man’s experience. However, what surprised me was his approach to this concept. He didn’t want to have a traditional, “free” relationship, because it required commitment and equal split from him — he would have to be accountable for the time he’s traveling for work, reply to the stressful texts, etc. But when he opted in for a sugar baby experience where he would pay for “service” in a form of companionship and intimacy, he all of a sudden wanted to have the emotional connection and the benefits from a relationship.

You can’t have it both ways. You either have to be involved emotionally and be an equal; or you way for a meaningless companionship where the other person doesn’t love you or care for you. The man from this story is simply selfish, self-centered and only wants his needs and wants to be accommodated. That’s not how the world works.

Canadian. Mental health activist. Banker and financier who drinks too much coffee. Pursuing happiness and sharing my thoughts with others.

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