I don’t think you guys get shamed for it. You get shamed for your attitude towards women with children. No one should shame you for your preferences and there are bunch of women who wouldn’t date men with children. However, saying that a woman with a child made poor choices and call her child “a baggage” is, in fact, something one deserves to be shamed for. Sorry, but you sounds quite judgemental and insensitive, not to mention plain mean. I see a woman who CHOSE to have a kid as a decent human being who decided to take the difficult route and not abort her baby. It’s not a poor choice, but a STRONG choice. Also, a child isn’t a “baggage”, and calling it so is a huge red flag for both men and women. I, as a woman with no children, was totally fine dating a man with a kid when I was single. So, if a man told me he wouldn’t do the same, I knew we’re not on the same level. I didn’t shame him for it; I just knew we weren’t a match (again, I don’t have kids). A person who considers a child a baggage is the same person who would see past relationships, struggles and hardships as a baggage too, and would criticize you for it. I’m the kind of a person who believes in finding the right person and “unpacking” that “life baggage” together by getting through all the issues, all the past pain, and building a happy family. Therefore, I don’t shame you for not having the same views, but I would know right away we’re not on the same level and we’re better off looking for another match. It’s about your attitude, not the fact that you wouldn’t date a woman who has kids.