I enjoyed reading this. If you write an article on the toxic culture of slut-shaming, it will make me (and possibly many of us) happy.

I may not share all your opinions, but still. The one thing that always confused me about men talking about how they want to meet a lady, was slut-shaming. Depending on whom you ask, many guys have a number of sexual partners they deem “acceptable”, and that number is different for everyone. And if you’re over their “limit”, you’re all of a sudden not a lady or wife material. But surprisingly, while judging other like that, those men aren’t always ready to face a woman who treats them the same way. If you, as a woman, tell such a guy it’s important that he doesn’t exceed your number of partners, or some other slut-shaming measurement, all of a sudden he’s unhappy, sad and possibly even outraged. Or, if a woman tells a guy she wants to take things extremely slow or wait till marriage, quite a few of those lady-searching men would get mad and run away. Some stories I’ve heard from women over the years are awful.

BUT, there are a lot of great men out there. At the same time, women can be slut-shamers too. The best idea is to treat EVERYONE with respect and not to judge them. I, personally, kind of fit the definition of a lady, but I don’t like to be called or seen as that.

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Canadian. Mental health activist. Banker and financier who drinks too much coffee. Pursuing happiness and sharing my thoughts with others.

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