I enjoyed your article and you’re overall correct… But every person is different. I’m a female in my mid-twenties, and I rarely meet men as mature as I am. What I actually mean is I rarely meet men who are as mature as I was when I was even 15… I almost never fight with anyone, try to resolve the conflict in the first few minutes, address the issue if one arises, and always work on the relationship as it’s a constant work. It was weird for me to read about bars, clubs and partying, as I prefer a meaningful experience, not a pretentious one. It sounds like you were going for party girls…

Most of the women I’ve known between the ages of 18 and 40+ prefer a night in and connecting over a conversation, not going to a bar and having a hangover the next morning. But those are the people I choose to surround myself with. The same principle applies in dating.

Emotional maturity doesn’t always come with age. I often meet men who are 30, 40 and older, and a lot of them don’t know the first thing about maturity. Honestly, if I were dating a 30+ year old when I was 20, there’s a good chance I would have been more mature. So… It’s all about the person.

P.S. it was weird to read a grown man describing his partners by mentioning their appearance… Wouldn’t it be more mature to mention their qualities as opposed to their skin and hair?