I posted an article where I interviewed a 30-year-old woman who's staying celibate till marriage. It's one of my recent articles - you're welcome to check it out if you wish. There, she points out her choice is for HER, not for a man. That she only wants to have sex with someone whom she loves and who loves her. The truth is, this is one of the ways you get to find someone to MAKE LOVE to and with. I'm not trying to encourage anyone to abstain, but there are benefits to waiting for the right person - or at least a good enough person. Because only those who care about you would consider your feelings and ask for an ENTHUSIASTIC consent.
I'm sorry you had such a traumatic experience. I wish you find someone who deserves you and cherishes your soul, body and mind.