I remember reading about what your husband said about you and feeling horrified. I don’t know why you were inclined to work things out after that. If you’d spouse calls you a c*nt and says he’s with you for health insurance, I think the only choice to make is to pack the bags and end it. It’s remarkable you still have it a chance, all while paying for expenses and providing health insurance for him. AND, after all that, you feel bad for him losing the insurance? AND he DARED to say you didn’t try? Girl, I’m so happy you’re free now.