I think I wrote a lot about the standards, in particular women expecting men to have decent social skills and putting effort into dates. This is the bare minimum though.

You interaction with that server was horrible. She sounds like a rude, poorly behaved and unhinged person. No one in their right mind and with manners would behave that way. I don't tell men or anyone to f off, unless it's a dangerous situation. Also, I'm someone who gives people chances to open up and show me their character. Maybe I should stop doing that, yeah.