I think you should write an article like that if you'd like to. Me calling such men idiots isn't a personal attack but more like me going on a rant. Most of my pieces are usually more in-depth, better-worded articles, but sometimes, I feel like a dramatic rant is in order. I'm fine if no one reads it; it's more for me than anyone else.
I don't think feminists "fight" for exercising personal choice when it comes to dating someone or having an opinion. We all have opinions and want to make choices; it's not exclusive to women or feminists.
You've got to remember that a failed marriage isn't necessarily a bad thing. Quite the opposite: it's an ending to an unhappy and, at times, even an abusive union (most often emotionally abusive, that is). Divorce means both parties get to end the misery and become much happier. And if they wish, they can always try again. Plus, a second marriage isn't even necessary as people can be loved and happy without making it official (preferably while still having certain legal protections, of course).
When you say "women who leave 75% of the time", it's a good idea to specify that you're referring to women choosing to file for a divorce, not necessarily ruining the marriage. I went down the "women filing for divorce" rabbit hole online not too long ago, and it was interesting to hear and read thousands of women saying they had to file for divorce only because their ex was either too lazy to do so or was still in denial despite being separated or informed the marriage is over. So, 75% of women leaving doesn't translate into the same number of women ruining the marriage. If anything, I can confirm from my own experience, as well as the experiences of at least dozens of women, that we, as women, usually endure way too much and stay for way too long before finally walking away. Many relationships should be ending much sooner, but nah.
From my experience, I can say that I'm not waiting for a fairy tale, nor am I holding out for anything. I just don't want to have a relationship with a bad partner. And the ones I described in my article surely are horrible partners. Plus, I have always been quite happy on my own, so I'd rather be single and happy than in an unhappy relationship.
Agreed on the retirement aspect. I'm a banker, though, and I have a decent plan when it comes to retirement. Everyone should. Also, don't you think that choosing to be with someone because you want to have a better pension isn't much different from gold-digging? I'd rather have a modest retirement and not the highest income than form a union with someone who isn't a proper husband or father. It's money vs emotional health. I'd choose the ladder.
As for the "easy way out" and a blanket statement. Like I wrote, the main issue is men who want servants and almost "slaves" getting upset about not being able to find them there they live and travelling to foreign countries to get women from (often, albeit not always) poorer communities, so they can now have maids, cooks and sex workers at home. Those same men often isolate those women who don't have anyone in the new country plus don't always speak English. But then those guys are upset when their wives learn English and leave them the first chance they get. If anything, this isn't about an easy way out, but emotionally immature, abusive boy-like-men resorting to borderline human trafficking and then getting upset when their victims end those one-sided abusive relationships. Because if there were to appear more "traditional" women around us suitable for such men in many different cities, it would have been an equally bad problem.
