I’m sorry you’ve been hit and verbally attacked. But here are the problems I see with what you said:
1. Being told to F off, pushed, etc., isn’t exclusive to a gender or a country. In fact, men, in general, are more violent compared to women. Which, by the way, doesn’t mean that every man I (or other women) see is automatically associated with violence. We just need to be mindful and careful, as there are horrible people and mentally challenged folks out there. So, your experiences aren’t really connected to women per se. Anyone can yell at you and hit you randomly on the street.
2. Women lying about rape is a heinous thing to mention. You seem to like evidence and facts, so here are two facts I recall from looking up this topic years ago: 1) women represent around 80% of rape victims; 2) only 4% of rapes are being misreported, as in lied about. Considering that many rapes aren’t being reported at all, meaning for each “official” rape, there are 3x, or 5x, or 10x, or whatever the number is, unreported rapes. It’s women who usually become victims of rape, and a very small number (again, believed to be 4%) of those are lies. I, personally, have been assaulted (not fully raped) once and mildly assaulted (more like majorly harassed; again, not fully raped) once as well. I can confirm that I don’t know a single woman who has not been at least mildly assaulted or seriously harassed at least once in her life. Obviously, I never reported any of my assaults, and none of the women I know did. I know several ladies who were raped, all unreported. And while women, not just men, can be rapists too, and we should talk about men being the victims of rapes and assaults, it occurs much less often. Everyone who commits assaults should be punished, and everyone who misreports a rape/assault should do time in prison, regardless of gender. But the fact that you mentioned Western women lying about rape as an example of you being fed up with these women is horrendous, and it speaks volumes about your character. In the West, we at least started seeing victims as victims and not victim blame as much. In the countries where passport bros move to because they are “fed up”, rapes go unreported more often, victims get blamed much more, and rapists probably commit crimes more because they know the chance of punishment is low. So, your using this as an example is beyond mindboggling.
3. A lot of people cheat. Or not a lot, but it’s not connected to gender. Or is it? One of the biggest data points I’ve seen is how many men vs women signed up for Ashley Maddison’s “Have an Affair” website. While it was available in other countries, most of the users were from Canada and the US. Do you know what was the breakdown of genders? 37 million men vs 5.5 million women. That’s 85% of men looking to cheat vs 15% of women. It was later discovered that less than 1% of women’s profiles were active and logged into the website since the registration date and that most of those profiles were not real, meaning almost all of them were bots & fake profiles created by Ashley Maddison staff to get men to pay for chats, hoping to meet up and cheat. So, your point about being “fed up” with women cheating has no merit.
People don’t divorce without reason. Only those who mistreat their partners are shocked that they filed for a divorce. Happy people don’t divorce good partners.
4. “No access to kids” - I’m sorry, what? There’s no court in developed countries that would allow this. The only time a man wouldn’t have access to kids is when there’s a judge order (meaning, the man did something quite bad for that to go into power) or if he doesn’t really want to see the kids and doesn’t go to court to get official custody. The men who complain about no access to kids either abused those kids or their mother or commit some other crimes, or they just abandoned the kids.
5. Foodie calls, and gym shaming is laughable. This is like me complaining that men only want supermodels and athletes with huge boobs (I mean, my boobs are huge, but that’s not the point, lol). Some people are shallow and have high appearance requirements. It’s not gender-specific. This is like incels complaining that women refuse to date them because they aren’t 6’4, fit and rich. Even if you were those things, you probably wouldn’t want to date someone shallow who’s after you for your looks and money. Similarly, more-than-average beautiful women aren’t appreciative when men are interested in them because of their looks. But it doesn’t mean that regular women cry about men wanting only supermodels and then move to other countries because they are “fed up”.
As for foodie calls, I don’t know a single woman who agrees to a date for food. It’s too much effort and time for a little reward. That’s an excuse, and such women barely exist. I’m someone who doesn’t like eating in the evening, and since most dates happen then, I usually don’t eat much on dates. And I always offer to pay half. But I can attest to most men I’ve gone out with having very little social skills or personalities. It’s not because men are awful and I need to grab my stuff and move to Indonesia. It’s simply because people don’t always have great skills in general; plus, you’re usually meeting a stranger, and it can be hard to have a connection. Men who have personalities and something to offer (emotionally, not financially) don’t usually stay single for too long unless they choose to or are simply unlucky. If dating apps don’t work, there’s always a chance of meeting people in real life; you need social skills for that, though. Dating can suck for all genders. So, if you moved to another part of the world because paying $50 for a few appetizers and not getting a next date was too much… Really?
6. Most importantly, moving to another country as someone who has a fortunate place like Canada, the United States, the UK, Australia, and others constitutes you being a high commodity compared to regular men in those countries. Just like you’re “fed up” with gym shaming, the guys in the country you (or not you personally but a hypothetical passport bro) moved to can complain that women are bitches and gold diggers who got for rich foreigners. And if you’re a white person residing in a majorly non-white country, then you also have white privilege compared to other men. What I’m saying is you, as a “fed up” American/Canadian/whatever guy, would be in the same position as a regular man in those countries. Just like you, some of those local guys complain about women going for someone better and leaving them, regular guys, behind.
So, essentially, passport bros cry about Western women not recognizing them and moving to another country where they would not have been recognized either, had they been the same regular guys there. And the women they end up with can surely be kind and good ladies who would date any sort of a man as long as he was a nice person with a good heart. However, a lot of women who end up with a passport bro would never look at the bro if he was a regular guy in that same country. The only reason a passport bro finds a woman can easily be that same woman turned down a ton of local regular men who are similar to him and went for a foreigner whom she saw as a better option.
