No, that’s partially true. I cannot say how many women are superficial though. My guess is, it’s about the same number as men. I, personally, don’t have women in my circle who prioritize looks and money, but I made sure to surround myself with ladies like that. I cannot imagine there being many more men who are superficial. It should be about the same number, don’t you think?
High standards are true. They are usually connected to personal qualities though. I have always had low standards for looks, money and other crap like social status. But my standards for a man’s character are high. It’s partially thanks to having a great father who can probably be an example to all men.
I’ll be honest, dating and getting married doesn’t seem like a good option for a woman nowadays. Take me for example. I earn decent living, I’m a good person (imho), and I expect to only be with an excellent man who will not only be a great partner but also be a good parent. That means sharing the paternity leave with me (doesn’t have to be 50/50 but still), and taking care of the kids & the house about the same as I do. Again, it doesn’t have to be equal, but since I’m going to let kids rip through my body and probably get long-term medical consequences; there’s no actual 50/50. Sadly, there are plenty of men who like the idea of a family but don’t want to take care of the actual children once they arrive. And then, take the rate of divorces into account. Plus, how many people don’t divorce because of the societal’s judgement or some other stupid reasons? How many don’t even know their spouses cheated on them? And finally, how many then get divorced and subject the kids to it, or at least stay unhappy in a marriage? It seems to me that having kids on your own and not with a man is the only smart solution.
If “keeping up”, as you called it, isn’t viable for men, then I don’t need anyone to keep up with me. People aren’t great creatures as is. I like learning from other folks’ mistakes, and so far it shows that being with a man, and especially having kids with him, may not be a smart or safe idea. I’d rather be a single parent by choice and then maybe, if a good person comes around, I’d consider dating them. So… There’s no reason to keep up, really. I don’t perpetuate the idea of singlehood, but I hear more stories about women deciding to be single and happy, while men talk about the male loneliness epidemic.
