Oh, Nelly. This comment started off well and then went completely downhill. I’m not sure what kind of a racist environment you live in or what kind of racist and clearly toxic people you’ve surrounded yourself with. But where I live, in Toronto, Canada, we see about the same proportion of people dating folks from opposite cultures compared to those who date and marry within their culture and/or race. Not only do people rarely make racist and cruel comments like the ones you wrote, but it’s completely normal and acceptable to be with whoever you want because we see people as humans. Canadians from cities like Vancouver, where 25-30% of the population is Chinese, a lot of whom were born there, would find it comical to read your comment. Racism doesn’t just disappear overnight, but one thing any of us can do is to get rid of toxic and discriminating individuals in our inner circle and, most importantly, not give in to their horrendous comments. I guess that’s not something you chose to do.

I’m an immigrant of white origin who hasn’t dated white men long-term yet. To be fair, I’ve only had two long-term relationships, so it’s not like having a variety of experiences. But both of my non-white partners were actually born and raised here – unlike me, a white-as-snow woman. Being white doesn’t mean you’re a native who doesn’t need citizenship, and being a person of colour doesn’t translate into seeking one. I got my citizenship without getting married, obviously. But if anyone were to make comments like you wrote, I’d laugh in their face and try to avoid interacting with them in the future.

This is interesting because my article was about a very particular type of men (and possibly women) who travel to foreign countries seeking a “slave” as local women wouldn’t date them due to their personalities. But instead of comprehending this, you decided to project your insecurities and negative experiences onto me. Yeah, that’s not going to help you, buddy. Only stupid and racist people can look at someone with a non-white wife and assume they’re a passport bro. If that’s who you surround yourself with, especially if that’s someone you let get under your skin so that you resort to writing the stuff you wrote above; then my condolences. That won’t affect me sharing my thoughts and experiences just because people like you got butthurt without using their brains to figure out the idea behind an article.

So, it’s not me who needs to “drop” anything. It’s you who needs to drop the insecurities and projection. Therapy may help. Oh, and by the way, one of the main ideas behind this written piece is that people (particularly women) become almost human trafficking victims when men yank them out of their countries and isolate them in the US/Canada. Considering that your Chinese wife probably knows of some victims like that and that Chinese individuals from low-income communities surely become victims of human trafficking of many kinds, your level of compassion and care is unmatched.