One unfortunate conclusion I made while observing men’s behaviour, as well as talking, dating and overall dealing with them; is that women do a lot of emotional labour and get very little in return. Frankly speaking, I’d rather pay for all dates and be the breadwinner in the family as long as I didn’t have to do so much emotional labour while getting very little in return. Going on the first date has always required 1-2 hours of me trying to make the guy comfortable because he was nervous, carrying the conversation, making him feel good about himself, etc. And then you hear all these guys complain about women wanting their money, all while not having any, and seeing coffee or food as “spending money on women”. What? I spent an hour getting ready and 2 hours trying to make a guy feel relaxed and confident on a date, all while he could barely speak, which also applies to successful attractive men because for some reason almost no guy knows how to talk and behave on the first date. Yet you believe that him buying me calamari and a coffee is a “gift” and him “spending money” on me? That 3 hours would have been better spent earning money, and I’d earn more that than little food or beverage was worth, all while not having to share my emotional resource with anyone. Sigh.