Thank you for the kind words. Yes, you're correct about these guys being overlooked by the local women. However, this is similar to how many women complain about meeting a ton of men who pretend to want a relationship just to sleep with them. There are also a lot of women who experienced men objectifying them and expecting a certain body type, breast size, hair colour and etc., just like men complain about women seeking fit tall guys. But I don't think women go overseas to look for love and keep saying that Western men ain't it. Sure, maybe some do as there must be a few passport sis'... But probably not a lot, haha.

I am a type of a woman who would gladly date a shy guy. The problem is, I'm a confident semi-outgoing person who is fairly wholesome, in my opinion. First of all, I cannot notice such men if they don't have any social skills to approach me or at least reply to me making conversation, which I often do out of politeness. And secondly, I have unfortunately seen quite a few examples of such men dreaming about a girl who's out of their league, and as they get her, they become insecure, controlling and critical of her to humble the girl down and ensure she doesn't leave. When I say "out of their league", it also applies to social skills. This is one of the reasons why I'm careful with shy guys. There is a good chance my confidence will seem like a threat to them at some point. I don't want to be with someone who tries to control and put me down because they are insecure.

So yeah, this isn't a good situation to be in. And I can serve as an exhibit A for your statement of how people choose to go 100% solo as opposed to 50/50. I can always count on myself but not on the other person. So, if some men go elsewhere to date women, it's good. But their behaviour and attitude is what raises questions. And most importantly, the human trafficking issue. Someone commented above re: Thailand situation. Read it, they're correct on that.