That's the thing though. I'm an excellent partner, so I'd rather be single and happy myself than with someone who much worse of a partner than me. Decentering awful people or a particular gender doesn't mean one needs to do so because they have issues to address. It's the other way around: having such people in their lives IS the issue, lol. And removing them & not letting new ones in solves many problems you're facing in life.

The idea of an ideal partner is naive and even toxic on its own. I also don't need serendipity or anything else to bring anyone in my life. My life is amazing as is, without partners. If a truly good one comes around, I'm open to that. However, I'm a believer that you must be happy, mentally healthy, know what you want and where your heart is without any influence from others, even friends or family. I have been this person for many years now, and me having people in my life is a choice just like I'm open to choosing a new potential partner. But I'm surely not going to plan my life around this mystical thing / naive expectation of an ideal partner entering my life. I refuse to plan my life and my happiness around a man I haven't met, or anyone else really.