There's a lot to unpack here. I agree that not being appreciated is unacceptable. No one should feel like their work is overlooked.

However, your comment reminded me of a reel I watched recently: "when he fixes something once a year and thinks that one choir is equal to me cleaning every day". While I don't believe we should start measuring the chores, it's important to understand how different they are. Unless you live in an old house that needs something fixed every week, and we're not talking about something simple like screwing a shelf back up; that's not a very significant chore. As for the yardwork, if you mow the lawn every week, then yes, that's very significant. But mowing the lawn once a week for 30 minutes may still not be equivalent to cleaning the home or cooking.

I don't believe the housework should be shared exactly 50/50. It can be a different split. But if one person does the majority of work time-wise, while the other one does very little, I cannot see the first one being very happy.

As for the emotional labour. I'm not sure what you meant with complaining. I can attest to meeting a lot of emotionally immature people, both men and women. If a person does most of the emotional labour while the other one is incapable of doing that, or simply enjoys receiving it but does very little in return; then I wouldn't be interested in being with someone like that.