What you said is all correct. There is a big problem though: in many counties and cities, the scenario you described is unrealistic. I'm Canadian and almost no one can support a family on a part-time or low-paying salary. A person would have to work 2 full-time jobs, meaning 80 hours a week, to pay for basic expenses. Even in small towns and rural areas, rents and mortgage payments are insanely high, not to mention the food costs and other expenses. And this is how it is in many countries around the world.
Your situation is vastly different as you said you worked for 7 years out of 10? I bet you have proper work stills and can find a decent job if you have to. Trad wives are often those who never really worked and often didn't even get proper education. That's the whole idea behind the trend wife trend; back in the 20th century some didn't even finish high school, were married at 16 and had kids in 1-2 years.
Also, several countries are at war right now, and we're expecting more wars to come, which is something NATO countries will be dragged into one way or another. Can a person with almost no education and work experience take care of their children if something happens to their spouse? I mean, this isn't exclusive to the war scenario as anyone can get seriously ill and dependant on us all of a sudden. But what happens when you have to care for not only your kids but an ill spouse? You, and many other educated and skillful women, can probably do that. But what about the trad wives who have little to no education or work experience?
One more thing you've got to remember is having a work gap on your resume that's more than 1-2 years can be a problem. And the longer the gap, the harder it is to find a well-paying job.
The only silver lining is that the influencers who talk about the trad wife lifestyle actually bring in a really good income if their content gets traction. I'm glad we have social media now. But to be fair, those women's narrative of a non-working trad wife gets devalued by the fact that they actually work by creating content and earning their own money.
