Yeah, sorry but I have no clue what you're saying here. When I used to be on the apps, I would give most men a chance and swiped left mostly on those who didn't bother to fill out their profile even a little bit or had something horrendous. Sadly, it was more men than I expected, but it wasn't nearly close to 1 match every 10 profiles. I swiped right a lot, and it surely wasn't because i had no standards but because I believe that every human we meet can potentially be an excellent person who deserves a chance and my attention. I also always put in emotional effort in every aspect of my life, including messaging men on apps in the past. But since many of them wouldn't bother to do the same, or at even try to have a semi-decent conversation; then it's a signal they weren't interested enough and I should move on.

I don't have an itemized list, nor do I want to be worshipped. I'm not sure where you got this narrative, but just like you suggested I should speak to living men in another comment section; I think it might be a good idea for you to speak with women. And I mean mature, non-shallow, grown women.