You keep saying men who sleep with a lot of women has to be intelligent and good communicators. Someone who invests 100% of an effort into something (=sleeping with many women, or at least getting to sleep with them more easily than most) while getting 1% success (I'm being generous with 1% because, based on how many dating app convos I've seen, it can be less than that; and then there's an issue of actually getting to sex) is in no way intelligent. These men put in a tremendous amount of time for a very little success rate. It's similar to refusing to get higher education and working 80 hours a week for a minimum wage with a high school degree. These men lack intelligence, and based on the endless pick-up attempts I've encountered and other women's experiences, such men are incredibly unsuccessful. Again, messaging someone who clearly wants a relationship is a stupid strategy, to begin with, and such guys do that because they failed to score with women who search for sex, and they are desperate. This behaviour constitutes very low intelligence skills, a lack of charisma, a lack of social skills, and a lack of understanding; they are wasting their time with this strategy. Not to mention, real men who know how to talk to women and get them interested in sex don't waste their time hiding behind phone screens, hoping that girl #586 may actually come through on her offer to see him for a hookup. Oh, and I showed up on several dates with very handsome, hot and well-off men who attempted to convince me to sleep with them, so trust me when I say this: lots of men can't even gauge how bad they are at communicating and "selling" themselves.

The crucial point here is that these guys who, as you say, "can sleep with a lot of women" are completely oblivious to what's happening to them. Men are so funny when they think that they "scored" sex and they "got" a woman to sleep with them, all while the woman was the one who was looking for a guy to f**k to satisfy an itch. And to do that, a man only needs to have the very basic skill set, which, sadly, for some reason, isn't attainable by most men in our society. I can tell you with confidence that if I were someone who was into casual sex, I wouldn't care less about whether I'm being celebrated or judged or whether the guy I just found is going to see it as a "win". Women want sex as much as men do, arguably even more. And one thing men are also oblivious to is how bad they are at sex, in particular when it's a casual one. People are more interested in pleasing others when they care about them, which is one of the reasons many women stay away from casual stuff: they know that all the dirty talk and "selling attempts" most likely mean nothing and that the sex is going to be mediocre at best.

Oh, and by the way, trust me when I say this: regardless of how attractive, smart, awesome, rich and etc. a guy is, if a woman finds out that he used to hit on a ton of women online, trying to convince them to bang while they clearly showed no interest in the first place; there isn't a woman there who would find that guy anything more than a low-quality guy. I, personally, wouldn't care if my partner slept with hundreds of women as long as he was respectful and mature about it. The behaviour we're talking about isn't respectful or mature in any way, and it's plain stupid. I wouldn't want to be around someone who lacks intelligence like that. Most women would drop that guy once they realized who he was. These low-quality guys who keep messaging ladies and get rejected thousands of times without changing their strategy are the bottom-quality of men in the men pool.

I love the "spread the seed" theory. For some reason, the men who use this excuse are the same men who get mad when their women decide to let other men "spread the seed" with them. This theory comes out when it's convenient and a guy needs to find an excuse for his behaviour. But for some reason, men don't like when they find out that women treat them the same way and also see a few other guys at the same time. Mystery!